Thank you both for your suggestions. I am not an electrics man. As you say, mark2, I dont understand why the regulators I have used (they are what I call "solid state", ie little black boxes with cooling fins, not tins with points and coils in!), dont apply charge, then sense a full battery and stop charging. Its obviously not as simple as that, for some reason, they dont "recognise" the fully charged state of the small battery.
Chater, if you have a possible solution with a" blocking diode on one phase of the alternator", please could you give me more information as to how I do that in practice? Im not afraid to have a go. Please check back, I will go and find some specs on the alternator.
Meanwhile, in basic terms, the alternator is one of those which has magnets in a "flywheel" rotating around several small static coils. The alternator output is 2 wires.The regulator has those 2 going in, and one coming out to the battery. The unit has to be earthed.
Thank you for your help.